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"A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him as strictly as a friend. This always starts out with you’re a great guy but, I don’t like you in that way. This is roughly equivalent for the guy going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we’re not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we’re going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn’t work out, we’ll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."
“A guy has a close female friend. She sees him strictly as a friend, but he still hangs around because he still wants to date her regardless of her feelings. He can be a great guy, but she is not obligated to have romantic feelings towards him because of it. But for some reason he thinks that she is, and that he deserves to date her more than the people she chooses to date. This is roughly equivalent to being an asshole. If a guy hangs around a girl JUST to date her regardless of what she wants, he is NOT a “good” guy and needs to get the message, respect her feelings, and move on. If he hangs around her because he genuinely likes her as a friend, he needs to get the fuck over it and enjoy the friendship for what it is. Because real friends and “good” people don’t blame someone or hold a grudge for not dating them. If he’s still bitter when she is upset and wants to talk to him about the person she IS dating, he’s doing it wrong”
-My response to that stupid paragraph that’s been making its way around Facebook recently.
(via megantheghost)
“A guy and a girl are close friends. The guy realizes he has feelings for the girl, but the girl does not reciprocate. This puts a strain on their relationship as neither one knows how to properly proceed from this point. They slowly begin to blame each other for the impasse- he desperately wants his feelings returned, and she desperately wants to return to the way things were. Both take it personally and insulate themselves by making the other out to be the bad guy, drawing comparisons and making snarky remarks. This is roughly equivalent to the way life works. Things don’t always work out the way we want them to, and it’s no more one person’s fault than any it is any other. Time spent placing blame and trying to make ourselves feel better might better be devoted towards repairing and rebuilding what was lost. Solve the problem.” (Source: kaiju-koi, via shewasoctober) |
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